Confidence is a blue-chip trait. Who doesn’t want to be seen as assured and capable during as many interactions as possible? It helps us succeed at work, it helps us succeed in relationships, and it helps our kids learn how to act with confidence, too. It’s smart, then, to keep an eye out for ways in which you might be sabotaging how confidently others view you. One big area? How you communicate. Using certain phrases and even certain words can create obstacles both at work and at home, causing people to lose confidence in you and call your abilities into question. As awareness is everything, here are nine phrases that make you sound less confident — and what to consider saying instead.